Fun that we are in StL, right?! My parents are having a blast, my little siblings cooperate pretty well, and we haven’t missed an appointment yet. I’d say the surprise has gone really well.
So anyways, last week baby Lily turned 3 months old! Crazy, right?
So it is time for an update on her & myself.
**Other posts in this series:**
We’ll save the best for last, so my update will go first.
Postpartum & Baby: 3 Months Update
Postpartum: 3 Months (Body, Mind)
I thought I felt more normal at 2 months PP, but now I really feel even more normal! If that is possible?
I’m finally starting to see some definition again, am able to add some weight to my bar while teaching BodyPump and in my own workouts, and I can do pushups on my toes again. (I lost a lot of upper body strength!)
I fit into all my smaller jeans, my muffin top is getting smaller, and my stomach feels less squishy. I’ve also regained a good amount of core strength (I can hold the hover longer while I teach CXWORX, for example), and don’t feel as much that I am going to die with each class I teach.
I’m not really sure why I bounced back so quickly, but I can attribute it to a few factors: I am a younger mom, I was fit & healthy before I got pregnant, I worked out consistently throughout my entire pregnancy, I eat pretty well, I had a natural labor (with hardly any drugs), I think I have good genes (my mom bounced back pretty quick with her first 6 kids, as do my sisters), I was not worried about my post-pregnancy body very much, I embraced the changes, and I tried to keep a positive attitude when I felt large & in charge during pregnancy.
Having that (mostly) positive attitude & a worry-free approach has really made this postpartum journey awesome for me! I’m not saying that this is the same for anyone who did/does similar to what I did, but to be totally honest, I have forgotten what it feels like to be pregnant already because I feel so much like myself.
This is not an announcement though. hah.
I do know we want a bunch of kids, so I really want to smash my workouts, tone & strengthen my body, and get super fit again during the time I do have until the next one. There is nothing wrong with pushing your limits & trying to see how fit you can get!
I don’t worry about the extra ‘schtuff’ that I’ve got going on because I know that as my fitness level increases, that will disappear.
So in general, I am feeling great about the way I look, but there is an even greater fitness level to be attained.
This month came with quite the emotional roller coasters though. After we got back from StL for the holidays, we did work very diligently on her bed time and helping her get to bed quicker/better. That totally helped my mood!
BUT, her naps starting suffering around 11.5 weeks which made me feel really stressed, overwhelmed, and kind of inadequate. It also made me a bit sad that she didn’t sleep as much, because I knew that newborn territory was probably ending. I also felt like I couldn’t be a good mom to her if I had to do stuff when she was awake (because she wasn’t sleeping even close to the amount she had been), so I often found myself crying a bit. I know that is normal, but it was hard to see her start to leave the ‘always asleep’ stage, and to feel like I could ever get anything done.
I think that is something I might always struggle with–I like getting things done, checking things off a list, and while I love a laidback-nothing-to-do day too, if I have too many of those I go a bit stir crazy. I just have to learn to be okay with days where no to-do list is even pulled out.
I’m also so excited that I have a baby who interacts more–so once again, with the roller coaster of emotions, I find myself laughing & smiling tons with her. She is entering a really fun stage, so that has been lovely!
Overall I feel pretty stable, but I have some hard days. And those are HARD. Being a mom is totally hard–and I bow down to any & all mothers everywhere! It is awesome of course, but I’d be lying if there weren’t days (especially this past month) where it was just plain tough.
The overall joy she brings me is incredible though–so let’s talk about the little princess, shall we?
Baby: 3 Months
She is growing really well! Although we don’t own a scale & she hasn’t been to any doc’s appointments for this month (she will at 4 months), I can tell she is getting a bit heavier & taller. Wahoo!
I bet she is just over 13 or so pounds, and probably just over 25 inches long. She has long legs!
She continues to be a really good eater! I still exclusively breastfeed her, with the occasional breast-milk bottle that she eats when I am teaching and can’t be there for her normal nursing session.
I feed her right after she wakes up from her sleep, so she continues to eat on one side, burp, eat on the other side, and then burp. Her eating time has gotten significantly quicker, so that is crazy nice!
She had quite the spit-up week about a week ago, so that was weird, but I think she just got overly excited, ate quicker than normal, and sucked in some extra air. But that is totally fine with me because that beats the projectile vomit we dealt with for the first 6 or so weeks of her life!
I obviously have no idea how many ounces she actually eats at each nursing session, but when I pump only 1-1.5 hours after I feed her (tired mama who just wants to go to bed), I pump out about 3 ounces. So I know she is getting plenty when she actually eats at the breast! I totally prefer actually nursing her–I love those moments we have together. And now she stares into my eyes sometimes when she is eating & it just melts my heart. <3
This month was the month she really began to ‘play’! We pulled out the activity mat & she loves to lie under it & kick her legs, pull things into her mouth, and stare at herself in the mirror.
She plays for anywhere between 25-45 minutes after she eats, so she does a variety of activities when we are just at home-activity mat, vibrating bouncy chair, singing to tunes together, the swing, sitting on my lap & talking to me, reading stories together, etc. Otherwise we are off running errands-and she usually chills in the Ergo when we do that (or falls asleep).
She is a lot more fun to interact with this month because she knows who Jared and I are, she smiles at us, and she often giggles when we tickle her, blow zerbers on her tummy, and tickle her neck. She is such a darling little girl!
At 2.5 months we put her in her crib for naps & night sleep, and she did just fine. So after that first day we did it in the middle of January, she has been in her crib ever since. It wasn’t much of a ‘transition’ though because she has slept in her pack ‘n’ play since she was born.
As mentioned earlier, her daytime naps went down the tubes there for a bit. It totally threw me for a loop! She literally went from taking 4 naps (with two of them being at least over 1.5 hours long, one of them being at least 2-3 hours, and one day nap, the last, being about 45 minutes) to taking 4 naps of 45 minutes-1 hour each.
Which is why I was like WHHHAAA???! And not to mention some of those naps she kind of fought, so it was taking me 10 or so minutes to put her down, she’d only sleep for about 45 minutes, and then she’d be back away. It was so exhausting!
Luckily after about 2 weeks of that, she’s doing much better and now at least two of her day naps are longer than 1 hour.
And if I read her ‘signs’ well, she goes down into her bed with her binkie in her mouth, lying on her tummy, with the blanket pulled up to her shoulders, white noise on, and some music playing, and falls asleep on her own after a few minutes of me patting her back.
Some days she fights naps, and those are HARD. It’s not often, but I can just say this now, I see why mothers protect their babies’ naps! They are much better night time sleepers, happier, and more energetic when they nap well. Which is why when I know she isn’t done with her naps (she wakes up really sad), I grab her out of her bed and lie her on my chest & she falls back asleep. Even though I know it’s best she sleeps in her bed, I do love those moments when she sleeps on me.
Putting her to bed has been SO much easier than it had been! She generally goes to bed now between 7-8 p.m. We start the bedtime routine by putting her in her pajamas, massaging her legs & feet with some essential oils, reading her a bedtime story, singing to her, and then I turn off the lights, turn on the white noise & music, and then feed her in the dark. I usually put her in her bed drowsy but awake–sometimes I have to go back in after 5 minutes & put the binkie back in, but otherwise her going to bed has been so amazing! So grateful to have my evenings back!
So, right near the time she was ‘turning’ 3 months old, she started sleeping longer at night! She had been sleeping consistently 5-6 hour stretches at night (then I’d feed her), and then she’d sleep like 4 more hours.
Well lately she’s been sleeping in 6.5-8 hour stretches, then I feed her, and then she sleeps 4-5 more hours. It’s so nice! I still keep her to her ‘eating when she is ready time,’ so if she wakes up before 7 hours, I put the binkie back in & expect her to put herself back to sleep until it’s time to eat. She handles that well, but I so prefer her to sleep until it’s time to eat so I don’t have to get up twice.
And most nights she goes back to sleep pretty quick after I feed her, but there have been a few nights where she struggled to put herself back to sleep & we had to jump back up out of bed to pop the binkie back in. Jared helps a lot during the nights, especially when it is just to put the binkie back in, so that has been awesome!
Well, I am off to run my siblings around! hah
Have a GREAT day!
What were some things going on in YOUR life the past month??! How much sleep do YOU usually get per night??!