We Get to Choose

Hey friends!!

What’s up?

I feel like this week has flown right on by–I think I am okay with that? ;)

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I’ve had several exciting and scary things happen this week, but overall I still feel super blessed. I am not so sure I would’ve felt that way even a year ago? I feel like over time my attitude & overall wellbeing has been improved–I feel happier, more content, and more joyful.

It is NOT because my life is perfect–actually my life is so not, but I try hard to choose to see the good in every day.

We Get to Choose

I think there is a lot of power in KNOWING we get to choose if we’re happy or not.

I guess my overall feelings today are not just gratitude, but feeling the power of WE GET TO CHOOSE. (Also after listening/reading this article it made me even more aware! <–great read)

A quick quote from the above read:

“So often we get caught up in the illusion that there is something just beyond our reach that would bring us happiness: a better family situation, a better financial situation, or the end of a challenging trial.

The older we get, the more we look back and realize that external circumstances don’t really matter or determine our happiness.

We do matter. We determine our happiness.

You and I are ultimately in charge of our own happiness.” {source}

We not only choose our destiny and who we can become, but we get to choose our attitude and if we’re happy or not.

Everyone has crappy stuff happen to them–big or small, but each challenge or trial is uniquely divine in its purpose for that individual’s growth and his/her capacity to meet it.

And we all have something in common with our various trials: no matter what, we get to then choose if we’re going to be happy.

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We could totally focus on the negative, the bad stuff, the ‘oh woe is me’ crap, and boy, you’d find it.

One bad thing could make the entire day bad, the whole week horrible, and the year a total bust.

What a sad, sad tale that would be?!

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A quick story about me:

I held in my hands (and stomach. heh.) the opportunity to change and become better. In the early Summer of 2009 I was boyfriend-less (we broke up instead of getting married. I was totally a mess), I was an emotional eater & binge eater, and I sort of didn’t like myself at all. Oh and my sweet tooth was crazy out of control.

I took a trip to Alaska in June (spontaneous, might I add, but my sis & her husband & his family were up there) and I enjoyed the beauty of nature and the amazingness of doing absolutely NOTHING with NO agenda or schedule. It was a life-changing trip. Literally. I saw that life is SO much more than a schedule, a to-do list, a future 5-year plan, schoolwork, etc.

alaska 2009

{Alaska 2009 -with my sis}

 

After getting back, and by the end of the Summer I was becoming a better version of myself: I was more confident, upbeat, and kind. I was less of an emotional eater (I still did it on occasion, but the episodes were less frequent), and I felt more okay with my future. I was making an effort to find happiness in the small things, and to let the ‘stupid’ stuff go.

{This was smack dab in the middle of grad school, mind you, when I was prepping for the beginning of my Thesis work.}

2 months later, in the early Fall (September 20, 2009 to be exact), I ended up meeting my future husband.

He is the best thing that has happened to me (duh), but to be honest, if I hadn’t have had that wonderful Summer of learning/growth/sorrow, I wouldn’t have been ready to meet him. I wouldn’t have loved myself enough yet. (is that enough negatives for ya?! hah)

we get to choose (honeymoon)

{from our honeymoon in Mexico in 2010. can I be that tan again? please?!}

I was pretty negative, unhappy, and overall stressed out human being at the beginning of that Summer 2009, but I was given a chance to, and I CHOSE to turn it around.

I will forever be thankful for those months of change allowance I was granted.

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We have the power to choose our happiness. It is NOT found in things/toys/possesions/money. It is found in simply enjoying what you do have–relationships, love, knowledge, family,  faith, etc. that can not be bought with a price tag.

Don’t forget to find the HAPPY today. I promise you there are small miracles & tender mercies in your day, and if we look for them we will see them, and our entire attitude will shift.

(p.s. this all came from an experience I had the other day where I had lost my phone! I was almost home from the gym when I realized it, so I sped back, and was frantically searching high & low for it. I was freaking out. A dude on the treadmill saw my distress, so I asked him to boorrow his phone, which he was using for music, to call my phone. He quickly gave it to me, and I called my phone. A person had TURNED it in to a trainer, after finding it IN THE PARKING LOT!!! I felt soooo blessed & watched over. It’s just a phone, obviously, but in that moment, I was so grateful that it was protected from cars’ tires, and that someone was kind enough to turn it in. Our attitude matters, people! Good things happen to those who not only work for it, but for those who look for it.)

“We shouldn’t wait to be happy until we reach some future point, only to discover that happiness was already available—all the time! Life is not meant to be appreciated only in retrospect….

…..no matter our circumstances, no matter our challenges or trials, there is something in each day to embrace and cherish. There is something in each day that can bring gratitude and joy if only we will see and appreciate it.” {source}

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Thankful Thursday

  1. I am thankful for kind souls who are honest.
  2. I am super grateful for the chance to BECOME. Simply the chance to be alive.
  3. I am thankful for salad dressing. (I’ve been obsessed with a few from TJ’s lately).

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Have a FABULOUS day! <3

What are some moments in YOUR life YOU’ve felt watched over?? When did YOU get to choose YOUR happiness recently?? What is something YOU’RE thankful for today??

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Comments

  1. i think i would have freaked out if i thought i lost my phone too :) :) but this is totally proof that GOOD things happen to GOOD people (the guy turning it in part) i totally agree with you that that we can choose!!!

  2. I am thankful for family..I just lost my grandmother yesterday and I hate to see my mom go through it. She is a strong woman though, and I am VERY thankful for her!!

  3. LOVE LOVE LOVE this post! I was nodding my head and smiling the whole way through. I can relate all too well to your “story”. I have a somewhat similar one. Thank goodness we were both able to turn our attitudes around and find super awesome men to spend our lives with! And I’m so glad you found your phone in good condition. I know I would’ve reacted the same way if I realized I lost mine. ;) Hope you have a great day lady!

  4. That is such a good message! I feel the same way with my boy…if I had met him before I did, there was no way I would have been ready for the relationship that I’m in now!

    A couple of weeks ago when I was grocery shopping, I put the bags in my car and went to go put the cart back. On my walk back to the car, I noticed something shiny in the snow – and it was MY KEYS! I had no idea that I had dropped them. So I’m going to take that as some sort of intervention!

  5. LOVE THIS! So many great posts today. Choice is such a great thing if you think about it, because we always have choice!! When we’re feeling bad because someone said that it’s our choice to react in a negative or positive way. Even if the comment is mean, we are the ones who can choose to feel mad or sad or angry and same with being happy we choose that! I’m so glad you met your Husband and he sounds like he was an amazing person to enter your life (clearly) such a blessing! When we think positive thing, positive things happen!

  6. I am so thankful that my husband has a job that allows me to be at home with my son. He works at the same place I used to work at and they really take care of their employees, so we have amazing health care, access to a free clinic, and access to a wellness center with free classes and stuff. it is awesome.

    I totally agree with your thoughts. I suffer from depression so when I am in the midst of THAT it can definitely be hard to make good choices. However, I still recognize that, even at my worst moments, sometimes getting up and sitting outside can make a world of difference. When I’m not depressed, I constantly challenge myself to find whatever lesson I should be learning in any difficult situation, and when I reframe things in that way, it makes me so much more at peace with whatever is going on.

    • WOW-that is such a cool deal with your husband’s work!!

      I love what you said at the end–reframing it to make peace with it all. Great thoughts! :)

  7. Thanks for this today. Right now I am battling a foot injury that has me on crutches. It’s already been almost 3 weeks and could be another 4 to 6 weeks on these things. Life is hard right now and I’m a little down and a little scared. It’s difficult to do anything normal like shop for groceries or take a shower. I can’t believe I ever took being able to walk for granted. There are times I feel scared that Oh My Gosh! I’ll never walk again, but I know I will -it’s just my mind freaking itself out. It just takes time and patience and a couple months is not all that long in the scheme of life. No matter what,someone else always has it worse. I am trying to remember the saying ” this too shall pass” and realize that I will come out of this ordeal with a new perspective on life.

  8. Love the message in this post, thanks!

  9. Thankyouthankyouthankyou for this blessing of a post, Annette. This is the very thing I’ve been struggling with for several weeks. My husband has been out of work since November and the past few weeks have been REALLY tough for us. After a colossal meltdown (we all need a good one of them every so often, right?) I found out some TRAGIC news about a dear friend the next day. Completely put things into perspective. It was God’s way of telling me that my problems, while enormous to me, aren’t so bad in light of what others go through. Your post is one more reminder to focus on the good. Where my focus goes, my energy flows! God had a plan for you, too, when he put your husband in your path. He’s a keeper! :-)

  10. Maren says:

    Thank you for posting this! I kept reading and saying, “that’s so true!” “oh yes, totally agree!” and so on. It’s so hard for us sometimes to just live and be in the moment…and be content in the moment we are in. It takes trial and error and sometimes takes a little reminder. So thank you for the reminder. :) Happy Thursday!

  11. I love the message of this post! It is so true, you must love yourself before you can love others. I truly believe life and moments are what you make of them, if you try to see the positive in everything you’ll be much happier than if you are focusing on the negative! Great post!!!

  12. I really enjoyed this post! I’ve been focused myself all this week on what’s mine, what I get to choose. Our ability to choose our outlook, our attitude, our perspective is one of THE most important present-moment tools of power. It should never be squandered … Thanks for sharing this, Lindsay, and so glad you can now frame all the past events as part of a now-perfect path that brought you to a better today. (Hugs)

  13. Thank you so much for this Amazing post! Just what I needed to hear! I too had some things happen to me a few years back that made me wake up and realize that I didn’t have happiness in my life. Sometimes we need something to happen in order for us to be aware of what we’re missing!!

    I am thankful for good health! Just found out I have bursitis in my shoulder and have been taking some time off from exercise. It’s tough to take breaks but I also know that my body needs this time to rest and heal. A lot of times I take these things for granted. It’s a good wake up call to be grateful for what I have! Xoxo

    • I am so sorry to hear that Liz!! :( I hope you heal quickly though. I believe that things happen for a reason, even if they’re sort of sucky–here’s your chance to relax and fully heal :) I miss you tons! xo

  14. I choose my happiness everyday when I decide not to resort back to unhealthy eating habits of my ED, when I don’t emotionally eat and when I decide to embrace life instead of shying away from it.

  15. Juliet says:

    I loved reading this and I wish more people had this outlook! xoxo

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