Why Being Judgmental Is Futile

Hey friends!

How are you all doing mid-week?

I am tired, but mostly happy!

A couple of random thoughts:

I had this for (part 1) breakfast yesterday.

Blurry, already bitten (can you tell I am very patient?!), and awesome. {P28 bread + Swiss honey + TJ’s Sunflower butter!}

So recently I’ve had some disappointments (just regular ups & downs) up in here, but nothing that’s going to stop me from moving forward (after the tears). I try my best to remember, that whatever is, is right.

Oh, and a helpful quote I’ve been loving lately helps me bunches:

“our Heavenly Father is aware of our needs and will help us as we call upon Him for assistance. I believe that no concern of ours is too small or insignificant. The Lord is in the details of our lives.” from this talk

Yep. He is. We just have to remember that our lives are being shaped the way they need to be for our benefit & growth, and not necessarily always in the way WE think they should be.

I also read a few posts yesterday that made me smile (and yell out “word.”)

Check out these great posts from:

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Why Being Judgmental is Futile

Guess what? We’re all mortal, human, and totally imperfect. And I am pretty sure most of us are trying our best in our respective jobs, family, and responsibilities.

So why do we spend so much wasted time and energy judging ourselves, criticizing others, and being so freaking judgmental about everything? (read here about quieting the mean voices if you need help loving yourself.)

I am not going to lie, when I read somethings on blogs & on the Internet, I just want to yell out “that is the dumbest diet trend I’ve ever seen.” Or “really? that’s all you ate?” Or “that’s not gonna get you anywhere with that attitude.”

So no, I am not someone who just breezes on by without judgment. It’s something I am aware of-because yes, I fully admit, totally mortal here.

I definitely have my judgements, my criticism, and my critical view on things. I just try not to spend too much time with those!

{I could’ve torn this picture apart with judgy comments, but I just posted it instead. Lovely for you!}

When I was in a dark place in my mind and heart and body, I spent so SO much time criticizing, judging, and being unkind to myself and EVERYONE around me. No wonder I was depressed, unhappy, and so freaking moody?!

Because of my amazing husband’s attitude, my recovery, and my newfound loves of lifting, eating any and all foods I find delicious (no bad foods, baby!), and trying to reduce the anxiety/stress and Type A in me, I have really found the beauty in NOT being judgmental.

Especially with myself.

Lose the Judgyness

Jillian Michaels in a recent podcast noted that she works hard for her body (duh!), but that there is an area she just doesn’t ‘get.’ The way she put it was, “I work too hard for that to be my butt.”

Yep. Totally understand that!

We ALL have areas on our bodies like that, we ALL have insecurities, and we ALL are trying our best. So let’s not be so judgy with ourselves & others, eh?

And there is a difference from trying to help someone who needs it and being critical and judgmental. Pretty sure we all know when we’re doing one versus the other. HINT: one comes from a place of love, and the other, a place of jealousy.

And even if you feel you can’t do NOT be judgey quite yet, the adage “fake it til’ you make it” was never truer.

Cheers.

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Have a FANTABULOUS day!

What do YOU do when you feel you’re being judgmental about YOURself or others?? What do YOU love about YOURself today?? What did YOU eat for breakfast yesterday??

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Comments

  1. Itz hard NOT to be judgemental sometimes… I think the best thing to do is remind myself that I am, in fact, being judgemental and remind myself that it will get me no where! PS: I love that white tank in the above pic you’re wearing – what is it?

    • You’re right, it gets us NOwhere!

      It’s from Old Navy, actually. I got it like 1.5 years ago though…. It’s a fav of mine to wear on non jumpy days (it slides up sometimes).

      You’re the bomb diggity, Linz!

  2. Great post! For some reason it seems like its common practice to have judgements on anything and everything and yes, ourselves are one of those highly targeted individuals! It’s too bad that getting wrapped up in the judgements and judging is so easy to fall into. Being an active, healthy, positive individual is for me how I keep away from judging/judgements. Self discovery through eating right, learning about my body’s individual needs and ways it thrives, pushing my ‘limits’ with exercise and fitness, and so many other aspects of a healthy lifestyle (optisimism, meditation, happiness, yoga) keep me off my own back and away from critiquing others. it’s refreshing to see another with such an upbeat, encouraging point of view! Thanks!

  3. It is really easy to judge others, and you’re right, I think most of the time it comes from a place of insecurity in your own decisions. To validate your choices for food/exercise or whatever, you judge others to make yourself feel better. Terrible, terrible thing to do. Several months ago that’s definitely where I was, but now, I’m happy with my overall health and habits, and have no judgment towards others. To each their own!

    • It totally comes from that place for me! The second I judge something or someone, it’s because I am insecure (for the most part) about that certain thing. Usually our judgements are a reflection of us. How scary?!

      I am glad you’re in such a happy place!!!

  4. It’s easy to judge others, particularly within the healthy living blog community, because we put so much of our lifestyle choices out there for everyone to see. If I’m feeling judgmental (about myself or others), I try to snap myself out of it, think of something positive, and move on. Today I love my determination and work ethic… I try my best to work hard and get things done, and I’m proud of what I accomplish. Of course I can always be better, but I’m proud of what I’ve done lately. Aaaand I had oatmeal in a PB jar yesterday for breakfast! I love the sounds of that bread + sunflower butter + honey! Yum!

  5. It’s definitely easy to judge others when people do things different from how we are used to. However I try and realize its my perspective and I have no reason to think things people are doing are bad/wrong. I just choose to think its the way they do things and if they like doing them that way then so be it. I just accept that people are different and we all have different opinions on how life works. I just try my best to be positive in reacting with others, I guess. Meditation helps me a lot with all that. It makes me feel much more at peace with the world. Yummy…nut butter and honey is so good together!

  6. i LOVE you for this post.. so, so, so true. It is SO EASY TO judge, and I hate it..but admit I do it, too. I find I am my most judgmental when I am struggling badly internally. When I am at a good place, i just see the good in everyone and everything and don’t feel the need to criticize. funny how that works, huh? it reminds me of the saying “misery loves company”.

    PS – you look FANTASTIC! LOVE that picture of you pretty lady!

  7. When I find myself judging others and myself, I try to focus on what really matters. That person isn’t me, and there are so many things to be thankful for and happy about rather than negative about. I’ve found that being surrounded by cheerful and optimistic people really helps change my view on life as well. It’s really helped me appreciate the little things more.

  8. Marielle says:

    I think this is so hard, especially for women and I dont know why?! I realized last night when I was working out, that I spent part if the time just picking at my body standing in front of the mirror, so dumb. Also last week I posted some exercise pics of me on my blog and was complaining about my arms…my husband said ” shut up, you have a great body and your arms look fine.” sometimes we need to hear that! Women have this strange comparison thing going on. :(
    Thanks for the post!! Definetly something we could all work on :)

  9. Danielle says:

    I love the picture and totally think you look GORJJJJUSSSSSSS 😀
    so true, i can be so dang critical of myself and will expect others to meet my high demands when i’m feeling stressed, but then have to come back down to earth and realize that i’m putting others through the torture that i sometimes put myself through. it’s not fun, and thankfully i’m learning (learning… still learning!) to be kinder to myself, and in turn and much kinder to others. at least i wold like to think so, lol. i used to be in a dark place and just loathed anything i considered to be an imperfection, and would sadly and regrettably make judgements on others. i learned through recovery and being humbled that judging others is only really judging yourself, so anytime i have a thought that is negative about someone i stop and ask myself if that’s really something that is bothering me, about me. and yup,it’s me! so now i know that when i am having issues it’s usually because i’m in a funk and need to be easier on myself, and then somehow miraculously i’m much nicer and patient to my family and friends. funny how that is, lol.
    Yesterday I was hating my butt, but today I’m embracing it… when i was in my ED, I used to never have a butt and was always a pancake booty, but now i got some me some muscle in my booty and a round kaboos, lol. so I am embracing the booty today as it is HUMP DAY, hahahaha
    happy hump day pretty girl, xoxoxo

    • Thanks girl!

      Embrace the booty :) for sure.

      I agree-when we’re nice to ourselves, we tend to be nicer to others. And vice versa!

  10. The older I get, the more tolerant I become. I think everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do and I don’t have to like it… but I certainly don’t have to let it upset me or even care about it, either. My motto has become Live, Love, Let. It is so much easier.

    Breakfast yesterday? hmmmm… It was grain-free coconut crepes. Yummers!

  11. I listened to that same podcast! I loved it, even Jillian Michaels has areas that bother her, we’re all human!

  12. Great post–judgement can be a tough habit to break. But I think the first step is the purely the realization of what you’re doing. Then you can be more aware, and learn to pay attention to the impact it’s having.

    I do need to do better with the self-judgement and be more accepting of myself, just the way I am! :) BTW, I just found your blog today, and am really enjoying it.

    • Oooh that’s good. Yes, realizing that you’re being judgmental is a GREAT first step! thanks, girl!

      Glad you’re enjoying it :)

  13. Love her podcasts:) Great message, girl.
    I need to find that P28 bread – sounds delish!

  14. I love Jillian Michaels!

    I think we all have that one body part that we always judge and are never quite satisfied with, but we just have to remember that it’s the same with everyone – even Jillian Michaels!

    I try to focus on the parts of my body I love – like my strong legs or the fact that I actually love my butt. :-p

  15. I tend to be more judgmental and unkind to my self than I am to others. It can be hard when I take an extra rest day or I just decide to shift my schedule that even though I am taking additional time off, I work hard every other day and I deserve a break sometimes. I try to remind myself of all of my accomplishments and where I came from (213 lbs) and focus on my goals and the path I am currently on.

    I think you look fabulous and I commend your positive outlook!!!

  16. Today I love that I have my body has the stamina, endurance and strength to teach snotty nosed little kids all day, be a good daughter and gf, and teach a rockin’ body step class 😉

  17. What a great post! This is the first time I’ve visited your site…I’m loving the honest message, I needed to hear this today :)
    Jx

  18. LOVE that quote! I hate it when I notice myself being judgemental : / It’s something I really strive to eliminate from my life.

  19. That is one reason why I got rid of Facebook. I would read posts and be thinking about how fake people are. It’s the ones that try to make their lives perfect that irritate me. We know life isn’t rainbows and unicorns. Great post!

  20. Thanks for the shout out! xo

    Also.. yes.. on judging others. So pointless. I love the saying “Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you.” I know it is a little different than the type of judgement you are talking about here (body image and the like) but it still goes!

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