How are you?! I spent the better part of the day yesterday totally unplugged, and I must say, it was awesome! As much as I love all of you, it is seriously invigorating to actually LIVE, and not just be tied to a computer or phone. Am I right?!
A great day indeed!
As many of you know, I struggled as an anorexic, and then as a disordered eater for years. Seriously, it took up years of my life, people! That is a lot of minutes WASTED worrying about what I was going to eat or not eat, how I was going to lie to the next person, and being disgusted with myself and my body.
After my healing process began from anorexia, I started to have a LOT of “I feel fat” days. Like a lot. Obviously this led to a further unhealthy relationship with food, disordered eating habits, and a completely dismal me.
I was NOT happy. I had a lot of negative thoughts, which often led to those negative actions-such as hiding food, eating out of stress, boredom, or unhappiness, post-’I hate myself’ exercise sessions, and overeating unnecessarily.
Did you know that what I was doing was actually FEEDING the unhappy thoughts? And that those thoughts actually came true?
Our Thoughts Are The Key
Our thoughts are powerful, and when we tell ourselves stories about how we feel, look, or are, we usually manifest those by our actions. So when I constantly told myself “I feel fat” or “I look fat in everything I own,” guess what that made me do?!
Yep. You guessed it. I overate out of stress, worry, anxiety, and anger towards my body and my (distorted) body image.
But the opposite is ALSO true.
Like I said, our thoughts are VERY powerful, so if there is something you want to be or have, start treating yourself better!!
Tell yourself how beautiful you look, how grateful you are for the wonderful legs you have that carry you throughout the day, how gorgeous your eyes look with that shirt, or how awesome those pants show off your hard work.
You ARE amazing. But you must FIRST think it to believe it.
And yes, the “fake it til’ you make it” adage very much applies here!
That is actually how I made it to where I am now. I just put one foot forward in the darkness until I could see a small glimmer of light, and until that light glowed brighter and brighter.
And now, my friends? I hardly ever have ‘fat days.’ (I am very far from perfect, so yes, I do indeed still have uncomfortable moments, but they usually are just that, moments. Very rarely now do I have entire ‘days’ where I think/feel ‘fat.’)
How To Get Rid Of ‘Fat Days’
So then, HOW to get rid of ‘fat days’?
You change your thoughts about yourself. You do that by being kind to yourself, because you have NO idea the amazing potential that lies within you!
Don’t for one day squash that potential or those incredible moments by wasting them on negative thinking about how you look. You are SO much more than just external beauty. Celebrate WHO you are, and you’ll begin to see that reflected in the mirror.
Remember, a confident woman who lives in gratitude and radiates that positivity is far more beautiful than a woman who thinks down upon herself all the time and dwells on the negative.
The next time you are tempted to say something mean to the person staring back at you in your mirror, immediately think of 3 things you’re thankful for, and 3 things you love about yourself. I promise that glow will radiate throughout your day, and you’ll forget you even had a bad moment there.
You are loved!! <3
Have an AWESOME Tuesday
Well, I am off to run in the morning rays of sunshine, and then off to work I go!
What are some amazing things about YOU?? <–I want to hear them!! How do YOU combat negative thoughts about YOURself?? When have YOU faked it til’ you made it??